I learned this from my husband; he is my inspiration for this article. I have seen him go above and beyond for others, and still never expected a simple “thank you”. I used to be that person, that would think twice, and say” Well, she never helps me so I shouldn’t help her either” Or “She only gave me this, so that’s what I am giving back” . I am not going to lie, I love it when I get simple gratification for my ideas and help, but now I just let it be. I do things out of the goodness of my heart, and because I want to do it, not to get that gratification that I was looking for earlier. I do not expect anything in return, because let’s face it, no expectations no disappointments!
We all realize that giving on any level feels really good, but internally all forms of giving are not equal. When we give with the expectation of receiving something in return, we are not really letting go of what we are giving. If we do not let go completely, then we are still clinging to whatever we gave. In do so you actually open yourself to a completely different experience. Now I offer all my help, ideas, and inspiration without any thoughts of getting anything back. I truly feel content and happier. And my relationship with my family & friends is better now; I am not mad or upset at them for no gratification.
Here are my 3 simple Steps:
Lose your selfishness:
It starts with losing our selfishness in what we require from others. It is hard to give to someone love without expecting anything back, but sometimes a situation can deteriorate to such an extent that the other person is incapable of giving anything back to you in return. For example, maybe they just find it hard to express love, or maybe they are just not in love with you for some reason. Having an unconditional commitment to someone means loving them despite not ever receiving anything back from them.
Give your energy:
If you can’t help in any way, this is really one of the most awesome ways you can give to others. Your attitude and positive energy has an amazing effect on those around you. Low energy, when approached by higher energy, dissolves. Help dissolve others’ lower energy by bringing your higher, positive energy to them.
Offer your help. If there’s nothing specific you can do for another person, simply let them know that if there is ever a way you can help, let me know.
This may seem small, but it works! This is an important and valuable reminder for us all, if you are looking for something in return, you will defiantly get a blessing. We may not immediately see the blessing but you can be certain that it will be received. It may be in the form of the way people think and speak of you in the here and now.
I hope you have taken the time to examine your life and found that you do at least a few good, kind, or helpful things from time to time. I hope you also noticed that there is room for improvement, and will put some effort into doing more. It’s time to do something. Make yourself a promise on what you will do tomorrow (or even better, later today) to make you happy. Then be sure to follow through. Build momentum, develop habits, and do things from your heart.
Feel free to come up with things that work for you, and also feel free to leave a comment with those ideas, so that others might benefit.